A letter filled with wisdom, lessons, and reminders that helped me before and might help you too.

Dear Confused, Lost, and Weary Self,

I know—this is another one of those strange letters you write to yourself. But hey, that’s just how your mind works. 😊

Right now, you might feel overwhelmed, unsure of what to do, burdened by guilt over what you haven’t accomplished, yet too drained to take action. Maybe your bank account is empty, and you’re stuck between not wanting to do something that drains your soul for money and feeling guilty about accepting financial help. You might even find yourself compensating by throwing all your energy into housework.

Your mind is probably racing with a thousand thoughts, but none seem to connect. Some days, you may struggle to get out of bed. Other days, guilt might push you to wake up at dawn and force yourself into action. Perhaps you sit in front of the TV for hours, only to be consumed by guilt and exhaustion afterward. And let’s not forget the sleepless nights—counting sheep until the sun rises, hoping for rest that never comes.

No one understands you better than I do. I know you inside and out. We’ve been on this journey together for a long time, and I’ve been lucky enough to witness every version of you—your struggles, your growth, your moments of joy.

As someone who has made it through this place before, I want to offer you some wisdom to help you find your way back:

• Give yourself permission to be tired, unmotivated, and low-energy. It’s okay.
• Remember, you can take a break from your own life. Resting isn’t laziness—it’s refueling.
• You’re not trapped by obligations. You always have choices. And right now, choosing this moment, this phase is within your rights.
• Lean into your strengths. You thrive on learning, empathy, responsibility, achievement, and helping others grow. Let those qualities support you now.
• Practice self-compassion. Be your own best friend. If someone you love felt this way, how would you support them? Treat yourself the same way.
• Be aware of your inner saboteurs. Watch out for voices telling you to hurry up, work harder, please everyone, be strong, or be perfect. They don’t serve you.
• Focus on wisdom, not strength. Awareness has kept you afloat so far. It will guide you again.
• Meditate. Give your thoughts space to breathe. Play a game of catching your own thoughts before they spiral.
• Let people help you. If the roles were reversed, wouldn’t you help them without hesitation? Accept kindness without guilt.
• Find someone to talk to. A skilled perspective can help clear your mental fog. Instead of forcing yourself to complete tasks, notice what’s making them difficult. Listen to yourself.
• Avoid actions that lead to deeper disappointment. Take a step back if needed—the world isn’t going anywhere.
• At the end of each day, deposit something into your “Positive Bank.” Write down moments of gratitude, joy, or small victories. Reflect on your past deposits. Invest in what brings you the greatest returns.
• Spend time in nature.
• Engage in repetitive, meditative activities. Knit, colour, do a puzzle—anything that brings calm.
• Stay present. Practice mindfulness daily.

Even if nothing outwardly changes, your soul will. Your perspective will shift. Your energy will transform, influencing everything around you. And when that happens, the universe will respond in ways you never expected.

Had someone told me this before, I wouldn’t have believed them. But life has a way of offering gifts when you stop resisting and start listening.

Sending you strength, patience, and kindness,

From someone who’s been there before